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17 Apr 2010 Denial Won’t Fix It

Heated discussionToday as I was riding the bus it was impossible not to hear a very loud cell phone conversation. “Shut up” was the angry reply to whatever was being discussed.

Then it hit me. Why try and continue the conversation? Why not just hang up. To continue talking was actually to deny that no real conversation was possible – at least for this moment.

Suddenly I realized that we all have a measure of denial in some area of our lives. After all, it is so much easier to ignore something than to confront it right?

Ignoring a situation or worse still denying its existence will not stop it from
hindering your development as a champion.

The only way a situation or a habit will stop hindering your life is when you face it and deal with it.

For example:

  • You may have one (or more) friend who is sucking the life from you. Every time this person calls the conversation is full of negative words and complaints. Yet you don’t want to hurt them, so you put up with it.

    After hanging up you spend the next hour or so trying to get your mind back on the positive track so you can regain that expectancy and enthusiasm you had at the beginning of the day.

  • You may have a habit in your life that you really don’t want to change, but you know you need to. But you try to deny that this habit is damaging to your health, well being and success.

The question for today is: Do you REALLY want to achieve success in your life?

The difference between dreaming of success (however that is defined for your life) and of REALLY wanting to achieve it is
determined, relentless and ruthless action.

Determined action:
You can only act with determination once you have made a definite decision.

Have you made a definite decision to pursue your why (your life passion and dreams) whatever it may cost you?

Relentless action:
To be relentless, you need to keep your vision in front of you every day. You can do that by creating a vision board.

Our brains think in pictures first and then translates those images into words. A vision board allows your mind to keep your vision clear and concise.

Relentless means you will always be pushing onwards and upwards towards your dreams. You will never give up.

A vision board will keep your vision in front of you so you will always be motivated to continue no matter how difficult or hard life may get.

Ruthless action:

  • You have made a decision to pursue your dream.
  • You have decided that nothing will stop you.

Whatever (or whoever) is stealing or hindering your dream has to be deleted from your life. This does not mean we need to become selfish in our pursuit of our goals and life passion.

But it does mean that you cannot allow anyone to infect you with their negative words and attitudes. These attitudes are destroying them, and they will destroy you too if you allow it.

You will be your own toughest coach which means you will not allow yourself to stay in denial on any issue. You will demand of yourself that you face your habit or situation, deal with it and change it (or delete it from your life).

Denial will not fix anything in yours and my life.
It takes determined, relentless and ruthless action to:

JillFace it – deal with it and change or delete it. Then victory will be yours!

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12 Apr 2010 Words Led You To Where You Are Now

Words as skin on FlickrThere is an increasing awareness these days of the power of words in our lives.

The truth is that it was words that led you to where you are now.

Today’s question:
Are you where you are today because of something someone else said to you.

This question struck me today as I was listening to a teaching CD by John Di Lemme, and is an excellent question to stop and ask ourselves.

What would YOUR answer be?

If you are honest with yourself your answer will most likely be – yes (at least in part).

Of course this does not mean that you are where you are today because you were forced to be here. No, you and I were born with a free will. Choice was always your right (and responsibility).

However, most of us grew up not really knowing or understanding this reality. Consequently we allowed ourselves to be influenced by the words of others.

You are free to choose:

  • Who you want to listen to.
  • What you want to watch.
  • Who and what you will respond to and obey.
  • Who and what you allow to influence your life.

So, if you are not where you REALLY want to be right now, what can you do?

Change:

  • Who and what you are listening to.
  • What you are watching.
  • Who and what you are responding to and obeying.
  • Who and what you are allowing to influence your life.

How?

  • Deliberately listen to words that will take you to where you really want to be – EVERY day.
    Refuse to fill your life with negative words and people.
  • Deliberately watch videos that will encourage and inspire you to reach your highest dreams and goals.
    Refuse to watch negative and violent trash.
  • Respond to and obey only the words that will take you to achieving your WHY (your highest dreams and goals in life).
    Take action!
  • Only allow yourself to be influenced by the words that will motivate and inspire you to reach your WHY.
    Surround yourself with people who are living the life YOU want to live.

Make these decisions and take action on them EVERY day and you will soon be where you REALLY want to be.

Words plus actions become habits. Daily habits predict your success. John Di Lemme.

JillAre your daily habits predicting your SUCCESS in life?


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