It is possible that when you read this headline the image that immediately came into your mind was that of relationships.

This is definitely one area where so many people in this world are trapped into negative emotional attachments. I use the word “trapped” rather lightly because in actual fact you are only “trapped” if you want to be.

So many folk who are involved in negative relationships use their situation as an excuse for not “being able” to achieve their dreams. This is the blame game!

Once you and I really come to understand and accept this truth of responsibility we now have to choose:

1. Stay in the “trapped” relationship or situation.
2. Take steps to cut all unhealthy ties (how you would do this will depend on the relationship – family or friends).

Friends:

• Take a look at the last 5 phone calls that are listed on your cell phone that you either made or received.
• Was the conversation with each of these folk constructive or destructive?
• Did you finish the conversation feeling challenged, motivated and encouraged? Or did you complete the conversation feeling angry, frustrated and depressed?
• If you answer yes to the second option (angry, frustrated or depressed), hit the delete button on their name in your contact list!

Family:
Do you have or more family members who leave you angry, frustrated or depressed after a conversation with them? How can you deal with this? Here are some tips:

• Take time to sit down with this family member face to face and explain that you have made a decision to develop yourself to become the champion you were born to be.
• Gently yet firmly let them know that you have come to understand and accept that YOU are responsible for your dreams and goals in life. You have decided to take action and pursue your life dreams.
• Gently tell them that you love them but you cannot allow them to shower a host of negative words on you.
• Firmly yet gently warn them that if they attempt to corner you with the intention of powering out a host of negative words, you will hang up or walk away.

One of the things that I hear quite often is:
I tried this, but my (mother, brother, uncle etc) does not understand. They may not “understand” at first simply because they don’t believe you. However they WILL believe you once you take action.

Take action today and remove yourself from the influence of negative emotional attachments and you will discover you are freer to pursue your life’s dreams.

This is the third article in a series: “Are You Free To Follow Your Dreams”.

• Are You Free To Follow Your Dreams?
• Lack of Vision Will Hinder Your Dreams
• Negative Emotional Attachments Will Suffocate Your Dreams