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20 May 2010 Negative Emotional Attachments Suffocate Your Dreams
Author: Jill |  Topic: Associations, Influence  | Tags: , , , , , , ,  | One Comment

It is possible that when you read this headline the image that immediately came into your mind was that of relationships.

This is definitely one area where so many people in this world are trapped into negative emotional attachments. I use the word “trapped” rather lightly because in actual fact you are only “trapped” if you want to be.

So many folk who are involved in negative relationships use their situation as an excuse for not “being able” to achieve their dreams. This is the blame game!

You are where you are today because of
the choices you made yesterday.
YOU are responsible for your life, your dreams, your destiny.

Once you and I really come to understand and accept this truth of responsibility we now have to choose:

  1. Stay in the “trapped” relationship or situation.
  2. Take steps to cut all unhealthy ties (how you would do this will depend on the relationship – family or friends).

Friends:

  • Take a look at the last 5 phone calls that are listed on your cell phone that you either made or received.
  • Was the conversation with each of these folk constructive or destructive?
  • Did you finish the conversation feeling challenged, motivated and encouraged? Or did you complete the conversation feeling angry, frustrated and depressed?
  • If you answer yes to the second option (angry, frustrated or depressed), hit the delete button on their name in your contact list!

Family:
Do you have or more family members who leave you angry, frustrated or depressed after a conversation with them? How can you deal with this? Here are some tips:

  • Take time to sit down with this family member face to face and explain that you have made a decision to develop yourself to become the champion you were born to be.
  • Gently yet firmly let them know that you have come to understand and accept that YOU are responsible for your dreams and goals in life. You have decided to take action and pursue your life dreams.
  • Gently tell them that you love them but you cannot allow them to shower a host of negative words on you.
  • Firmly yet gently warn them that if they attempt to corner you with the intention of powering out a host of negative words, you will hang up or walk away.

One of the things that I hear quite often is:
I tried this, but my (mother, brother, uncle etc) does not understand. They may not “understand” at first simply because they don’t believe you. However they WILL believe you once you take action.

It is 1000% necessary that you take action
and follow through with your plan!

JillTake action today and remove yourself from the influence of negative emotional attachments and you will discover you are freer to pursue your life’s dreams.

This is the third article in a series: “Are You Free To Follow Your Dreams”.

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10 May 2010 Is Your Outer World Attacking Your Inner World?
Author: Jill |  Topic: Choices, Influence  | Tags: , , , , , ,  | 8 Comments

T Harv Eker is quoted as saying: Your inner world reflects your outer world.

Doggy AttackEqually true is the following:
Your outer world develops (or attacks) your inner world. This development will be positive or negative – that depends on YOU.

The reality is that every part of our being is intertwined.

Remember the verse in the Bible in Psalm 139:14 I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.

You are I are not created in isolated parts. Every part of our being affects the other.

This brings up a great question for today:

Who and what am I allowing to influence and develop my life?

Remember, your outer world greatly influences your inner world. But does this mean that you are at the mercy of your outer world? No! No! No!

Many use this as an excuse for not moving forward and reaching the success they were destined to enjoy.

No – a thousand times no! There is NO excuse for not reaching your destiny. Your destiny is guaranteed to be a GOOD one, IF you choose to pursue it. (Read Jeremiah 29:11).

You make decisions every day to either allow the attacks from outer world to influence your mind and heart, or you are quick to defend and protect yourself.

How can you be strong enough to act so quickly to protect your heart and mind?

Because of your daily habits of immersing yourself with strong positive words and teachings. The truth is that YOU have a responsibility to choose what influences you will surround yourself with.

You choose what you will allow to enter into your inner life.
You choose what will develop your inner world.

Your inner world is influenced by:

  • Everything that you listen to, good or bad or a mixture of both.
  • Everything that you watch. That means those TV programs that you watch are not as just harmless entertainment. No, they will influence your mind and your heart.
  • Everyone that you associate with.
It is common knowledge that your future can easily be predicted by looking at the lives of your closest friends.
  • If your friends are highly educated, you will be challenged to go higher too.
  • If your friends are committed Christians, you will be challenged to be more committed to Christ too.
  • If your friends are wealthy, you will learn from them and follow their example. You have a great chance of becoming wealthy too.
  • If your friends are content to stay uneducated and poor, you will adapt to their environment and mental outlook also.
  • If you friends are negative and spend their time criticizing and complaining, your faith will weaken and you will soon find yourself agreeing with them.

It is totally impossible to play around with negative influences and associate with negative people and expect your mind and heart to stay positive.

James 1:8 in the Bible declares “a double minded man is unstable in all of his ways”.

Is your life as stable as you would like it to be? If not, then ask yourself this question.

JillWhat areas of my outer life are contaminating my inner life and destroying my dream?

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