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09 Nov 2010 The Wall Came Tumbling Down
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Berlin WallWell no, it did not tumble down immediately, but today is the anniversary of the beginning of the demolishing of a very historic wall – the famous Berlin Wall.

Yes, on November 9th, 1989 the borders between the West and East sides of Germany were opened and then Berlin Wall began to be dismantled in the days that followed.

If you are a Baby Boomer, I am sure that you remember this day quite vividly. It was a great triumph for Germany and for all of the families involved. The division between them was being pulled down.

When I checked the news this morning and found that today is a significant anniversary for the world a question came to my mind:

What borders do you have in your life
that may need to come down?

We all put up barriers across the years as we go through different experiences in life. But borders are not always good.

Healthy Boundaries
You and I need to have healthy boundaries. After all your life was not designed to be Grand Central Station.

You have your own life purpose and your dreams and this is your first priority. Of course your immediate family will fit into your life purpose in different ways.

You have your own responsibilities and consequently your daily life is filled with priorities. In order to fulfill those responsibilities you need to set boundaries so that you can focus on your priorities.

Your real friends will respect those boundaries. In fact they too will have their own boundaries as they lead their lives which will also be driven by their WHYs (their life passions and dreams). Then the time you can spend with these friends will be so much more valuable and enriched.

Unhealthy Boundaries
The unhealthy boundaries and borders are the ones that need to come down. These are those barriers that you may have put up because of old hurts in your life.

These barriers are shutting out the wrong people in your life and will cause problems in your present relationships.

Here is a challenge for you today.
Take a few minutes to reflect on your life. Ask yourself the following two questions:

  1. Do I have the right boundaries set in my life?

    If not, make a decision to set them in place.

  2. Do I have the wrong borders built up in my life?

    If you do, make a decision to tear them down. The first step to being able to tear the wrong borders down is to forgive.

    Forgiveness is a decision. You decide to forgive and release the other person or people from your life.

JillWhen you have the right boundaries set and have torn down the wrong borders, you will experience so much more freedom in your life.

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20 May 2010 Negative Emotional Attachments Suffocate Your Dreams
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It is possible that when you read this headline the image that immediately came into your mind was that of relationships.

This is definitely one area where so many people in this world are trapped into negative emotional attachments. I use the word “trapped” rather lightly because in actual fact you are only “trapped” if you want to be.

So many folk who are involved in negative relationships use their situation as an excuse for not “being able” to achieve their dreams. This is the blame game!

You are where you are today because of
the choices you made yesterday.
YOU are responsible for your life, your dreams, your destiny.

Once you and I really come to understand and accept this truth of responsibility we now have to choose:

  1. Stay in the “trapped” relationship or situation.
  2. Take steps to cut all unhealthy ties (how you would do this will depend on the relationship – family or friends).

Friends:

  • Take a look at the last 5 phone calls that are listed on your cell phone that you either made or received.
  • Was the conversation with each of these folk constructive or destructive?
  • Did you finish the conversation feeling challenged, motivated and encouraged? Or did you complete the conversation feeling angry, frustrated and depressed?
  • If you answer yes to the second option (angry, frustrated or depressed), hit the delete button on their name in your contact list!

Family:
Do you have or more family members who leave you angry, frustrated or depressed after a conversation with them? How can you deal with this? Here are some tips:

  • Take time to sit down with this family member face to face and explain that you have made a decision to develop yourself to become the champion you were born to be.
  • Gently yet firmly let them know that you have come to understand and accept that YOU are responsible for your dreams and goals in life. You have decided to take action and pursue your life dreams.
  • Gently tell them that you love them but you cannot allow them to shower a host of negative words on you.
  • Firmly yet gently warn them that if they attempt to corner you with the intention of powering out a host of negative words, you will hang up or walk away.

One of the things that I hear quite often is:
I tried this, but my (mother, brother, uncle etc) does not understand. They may not “understand” at first simply because they don’t believe you. However they WILL believe you once you take action.

It is 1000% necessary that you take action
and follow through with your plan!

JillTake action today and remove yourself from the influence of negative emotional attachments and you will discover you are freer to pursue your life’s dreams.

This is the third article in a series: “Are You Free To Follow Your Dreams”.


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